How Likable Are You?
Here’s an important question I’ll pose for you; how likable are you?
This is a critically important question for you to ask yourself.
So think about how you see yourself. If you have some unfavorable habits, there’s no better time like the present to tidy up those ugly habits and self improve.
Trust me, if you’re a habitual complainer, I bet you are pretty good at clearing a room. On the flip side, if you’re a genuinely optimistic person who leads with a smile...I bet people find you more engaging and enjoy your company regularly.
Usually if you encounter someone who makes it their job to get under your skin, or to create unnecessary obstacles for you & others; they’re probably not just unlikable to you. Chances are, due to their own insecurities, they most likely aren’t fond of themselves. Self-hate is often the culprit or common factor in mean, nasty, vile people.
People who exude confidence and are genuinely nice well adjusted people tend to garner respect and favor from others.
It’s true, while no one is “perfect”, some people are just not “likable.”
Quiz yourself to find out if you need an “ah ha” moment:
1.Do you give unsolicited advice to family, friends, coworkers often?
2. Do you monopolize your personal/professional conversations without listening or asking questions about others?
3. Do you seek to gain advantage or possessions in exchange for good deeds?
4. Do you brag or boast about your financial successes? (I'm talking more than a self-motivating "humble" brag!)
5. Do you lie? Are you a liar????? Have you lied about coworkers, friends, or even family members for petty reasons or to create a untrue narrative about someone???
If you have answered yes to 1 or more of these questions, you’ve got work to do.
1. You’re a “know-it-all” and are annoying and sometimes insulting.
2. You are self absorbed, narcissistic, and careless.
3. You lack empathy, compassion and are self-serving.
4. You are an asshole!
5. You are dangerous and may exhibit psychotic tendencies. Liars often cheat & steal or worse! Please seek help from a mental health professional.
Note, you have the ability to change as long as the desire is there.
First you must be honest with yourself in order to heal and tidy up any areas you’re struggling with. You can do it!
If you have witnessed these behaviors from loved ones or coworkers ...well it’s time for an intervention and/or distance!
I have personally found that it is necessary to forgive people who have wronged me, however; I allow myself distance when necessary.
Until next time...